Diligence Jones<p>I&#39;m kinda ok with men looking at me with Benson and backing off.</p><p>Over the weekend a tik tok was posted from a young Black woman in the hospital. One side of her face distorted with massive bruising and swelling. A man had asked for her phone number and she refused. He picked up a brick and smashed her in the face with it while the men watching did nothing.</p><p>This incident has been the focus of BlackTok all weekend. Black women were generally in team <a href="https://sfba.social/tags/ThisIsWhyWeCantTrustYou" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ThisIsWhyWeCantTrustYou</span></a> and Black men split between &#39;we need to do better&#39; and &#39;I don&#39;t know you so you&#39;re not worth protecting.&#39;</p><p>Which is a hell of a take. Wow.</p><p>I won&#39;t get into a long thread about <a href="https://sfba.social/tags/misogynoir" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>misogynoir</span></a> but it&#39;s real (and there are fantastic Black women writers on it) and the analysis of it shines a bright unflattering light on the ways internalized white supremacy and toxic masculinity (sort of related) poison potential heterosexual bonds between Black men and women.</p><p>As I approach 54, I&#39;m growing more ok with my impending invisibility.</p><p><a href="https://sfba.social/tags/BlackFeminist" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>BlackFeminist</span></a></p>