If #betrayalTrauma involves being betrayed by someone on whom you depend, what's the name for the trauma you experience when you're betrayed by someone you don't necessarily depend on but who you trusted nonetheless? 
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He leído esta entrevista con Fer Rivas en @pikaramagazine : https://www.pikaramagazine.com/2025/04/la-identidad-de-hombre-se-construye-a-costa-de-aceptar-violencia
Muy de acuerdo. Creo que muchas mujeres cis no se pueden imaginar la violencia que acompaña a la construcción de todo tipo de masculinidad. Yo también lo he vivido - sufrido.
Luego leí otra entrevista en El País: https://12ft.io/https://elpais.com/babelia/2025-02-15/fer-rivas-la-masculinidad-asesina-al-nino-que-no-renuncia-a-su-deseo.html
Se me disparó el TEPT: "Para que un hombre llegue a ser adulto, lo que hace la masculinidad es asesinar a ese niño que es inteligente emocionalmente, ese niño que no renuncia a su deseo."
Necesitaba muchos años para dejar de intentar encontrar una masculinidad que me podría funcionar. No existe. Por esto empecé a identificarme como genderqueer, nobinarie. Pero todavía tengo muchas heridas mal cicatrizado o incluso abiertas.
#nobinarie #trans #queer #ferrivas #trauma #traumadegénero
Muy de acuerdo. Creo que muchas mujeres cis no se pueden imaginar la violencia que acompaña a la construcción de todo tipo de masculinidad. Yo también lo he vivido - sufrido.
Luego leí otra entrevista en El País: https://12ft.io/https://elpais.com/babelia/2025-02-15/fer-rivas-la-masculinidad-asesina-al-nino-que-no-renuncia-a-su-deseo.html
Se me disparó el TEPT: "Para que un hombre llegue a ser adulto, lo que hace la masculinidad es asesinar a ese niño que es inteligente emocionalmente, ese niño que no renuncia a su deseo."
Necesitaba muchos años para dejar de intentar encontrar una masculinidad que me podría funcionar. No existe. Por esto empecé a identificarme como genderqueer, nobinarie. Pero todavía tengo muchas heridas mal cicatrizado o incluso abiertas.
#nobinarie #trans #queer #ferrivas #trauma #traumadegénero
Transgenerational #wealth vs #trauma.
https://newsie.social/@TheConversationUS/114394864197372397
NewsieThe Conversation U.S. (@TheConversationUS@newsie.social)Of its 535 members of Congress from 2021-23, 100 were descendants of slaveholders.
Legislators whose ancestors were large slaveholders had a current median net worth 5x larger than their peers whose ancestors were not slaveholders: $5.6 million vs. $1.1 million.
https://theconversation.com/many-wealthy-members-of-congress-are-descendants-of-rich-slaveholders-study-demonstrates-the-enduring-legacy-of-slavery-239077
#USPolitics #history #Congress
Trauma doesn’t disappear; it embeds itself into the nervous system. People who’ve experienced trauma often develop survival behaviors: hypervigilance, avoidance, dissociation, over-control. In digital spaces, these behaviors don’t vanish. They adapt.
Examples:
— Hypervigilant users may...
https://medium.com/@mrsno1special/ghosts-in-the-machine-a05092751f37
Medium · Ghosts in the Machine - MrsNo1Special - Medium
#STOPTHEGENOCIDE #genocide #palestine #children #childhood #trauma #pain #hardship #suffering #stopisrael #israel #netanyahu
A little #Palestinian girl from #Gaza with her baby-sibling.
[Photo source unknown]
Ich halte den #Longtermism für "zu Kurz gesprungen" denn, er läßt fundamental ausser Acht daß,Leid Traumata erzeugt,das wiederum Generationen erneut Traumatisiert,und wenn Therapiert,trozdem noch beeinflusst und damit einfach Zeit kostet,die wiederum für,eurem selbst reklamieren Rationalismus fehlt. Euer Problem ist daß Longtermism für alles Zeit hat,aber grade menschliche Entwicklung durch einfach nur "mehr Menschen" Paralelisiert werden soll,was dadurch nur mehr #Trauma erzeugt.
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The #grief that emerges in the aftermath of a #narcissisticRelationship falls under the umbrella of "disenfranchised grief". That is grief which isn't socially acknowledged as reasonable.
The sad reality is that navigating the grief of losing a relationship with a #narcissistic partner is really fucking difficult.
You're grieving a person that never existed. They were a facade produced by a psychological predator to devour you whole. This means you're grieving a person that is still alive while simultaneously never having existed. This is exacerbated when you are unable to go no contact and have to regularly face your abuser.
If you're wrestling with this: you have all my empathy. What helps me is understanding that I'm not really grieving the loss of the relationship but I'm grieving the loss of possibility and hope. I thought I found someone who shared my visions for a good life. I did not. I'm grieving the loss of that. Not the loss of my abuser.
Mit Razzien gegen Intellektuelle in #Konstantinopel begann heute vor 110 Jahren der #Völkermord an den #Armenier*innen. Klagelieder können als alternative Quellen zu Erfahrung & Erinnerung einer unterdrückten Geschichte des #Genozids dienen:
Yektan Türkyılmaz, »Die Sonne gefror am Himmel«. Von den Schwierigkeiten der #Genozidforschung unter den Bedingungen der Verleugnungsideologie, #WerkstattGeschichte 81/2020, https://werkstattgeschichte.de/abstracts/nr-81-yektan-tuerkyilmaz/
https://www.europesays.com/uk/45516/ Not everyone who experiences severe trauma develops PTSD. But here’s why many people do. #anxiety #AnxietyU0026Stress #Curious #Health #Just #JustCurious #Literature #medical #MedicalLiteratureU0026Resources #MentalHealth #Negative #Overall #OverallNegative #Point #Psychology #psychotherapy #PTSD #Resources #SEO #SEOWellness #Social #SocialAnxiety #Stress #the #to #ToThePoint #trauma #u0026 #UK #UnitedKingdom #Wellness
#autism #dating #actuallyautisic #trauma #PTSD #CPTSD
One of the things that I have learned over time, is that often you will go into a long term #relationship with sort of an agreement or contract of assumptions about the relationship. Or maybe that's just me because I'm on the spectrum.
However at some point, often quite a few years in, especially if your partner has #trauma issues, something will make it impossible to keep the contract/agreement intact. These are often CORE parts of your agreement and incredibly important to you. This can do one of two things. Destroy the relationship because they broke the contract, or you can work together and with yourself to adjust. What no one ever tells you when they say "relationships require work".
Communication is essential, something I've worked hard at and rarely had issues with over relationships, but with trauma it really does involve work and accepting a reality you never actually signed up for. In sickness and in health.
On the spectrum its very easy to be offended and hurt by this breach of trust. However Love is more than an emotion, it is a promise and at a certain point, if its a choice between the contract or love, especially if they are putting effort into it but just can't. Discovering if they are often requiring communication and probing questions to discover their level of effort if depression and dissociation are involved. It may appear to you that they aren't putting any effort in when they are working so hard just to live with depression, anxiety or trauma. Effort, not outcome is what should define a relationship. Equal effort from all.
Love is also a contract and a promise to work hard to make the relationship work. How much of each contract outweighs the other depends on you. Do you sacrifice something very important for the sake of love, or feel betrayed and burn the love promise in the process.
All I know at this point is that no matter the relationship if I was to burn down the love contract, then try with someone else, this same thing would happen in a unique and likely just as painful way. So if you can salvage it and work together on in. You never signed up for this but that was a blank check written in the love promise. You work at it and don't give up. Verify especially from a therapist that they aren't abusing you in some way psychologically, (and physical abuse is right out) but don't assume your next relationship wont hurt just as much later when this "contract breech" happens again.
You are the only thing you can change, not them, its up to you to decide if your bond or their contract agreement is more important to you.
One of the things that I have learned over time, is that often you will go into a long term #relationship with sort of an agreement or contract of assumptions about the relationship. Or maybe that's just me because I'm on the spectrum.
However at some point, often quite a few years in, especially if your partner has #trauma issues, something will make it impossible to keep the contract/agreement intact. These are often CORE parts of your agreement and incredibly important to you. This can do one of two things. Destroy the relationship because they broke the contract, or you can work together and with yourself to adjust. What no one ever tells you when they say "relationships require work".
Communication is essential, something I've worked hard at and rarely had issues with over relationships, but with trauma it really does involve work and accepting a reality you never actually signed up for. In sickness and in health.
On the spectrum its very easy to be offended and hurt by this breach of trust. However Love is more than an emotion, it is a promise and at a certain point, if its a choice between the contract or love, especially if they are putting effort into it but just can't. Discovering if they are often requiring communication and probing questions to discover their level of effort if depression and dissociation are involved. It may appear to you that they aren't putting any effort in when they are working so hard just to live with depression, anxiety or trauma. Effort, not outcome is what should define a relationship. Equal effort from all.
Love is also a contract and a promise to work hard to make the relationship work. How much of each contract outweighs the other depends on you. Do you sacrifice something very important for the sake of love, or feel betrayed and burn the love promise in the process.
All I know at this point is that no matter the relationship if I was to burn down the love contract, then try with someone else, this same thing would happen in a unique and likely just as painful way. So if you can salvage it and work together on in. You never signed up for this but that was a blank check written in the love promise. You work at it and don't give up. Verify especially from a therapist that they aren't abusing you in some way psychologically, (and physical abuse is right out) but don't assume your next relationship wont hurt just as much later when this "contract breech" happens again.
You are the only thing you can change, not them, its up to you to decide if your bond or their contract agreement is more important to you.
sitting in the grass
waiting for the words to come
a journal in hand
#DailyHaikuPrompt - grass
#mastoprompt - journal
ART
https://fineartamerica.com/featured/still-standing-inspirational-art-sharon-cummings.html
You wanna pay back the #narcissist in your life? The biggest punishment for a narcissist is being ignored. Do not pay them attention of any kind. Don't let their reality impact yours or only as minimally as possible.
In the world of a narcissist only their reality matters. Your reality is by definition wrong and nothing you do can change that. Their actions are by definition just and good. But what if they do something that's clearly cruel and harmful?
Remember the narcissistic prayer? That. They change their reality so that their actions are now again just and good. And if that means that they have to throw you under the bus they'll not hesitate to do so. They will literally construct false realities in which you are the most vile human being to have ever walked the earth, all in a (largely unconscious!) effort to turn them into a victim who didn't have another choice but to harm you deeply.
Don't let their reality become your reality. Ignore them.
Jeremy Renner Recalls Near-Death Snowplow Accident in Upcoming Memoir My Next Breath
#accident #Avengers #injury #JeremyRenner #trauma
https://blazetrends.com/jeremy-renner-recalls-near-death-snowplow-accident-in-upcoming-memoir-my-next-breath/?fsp_sid=18770
Blaze Trends · Jeremy Renner Recalls Near-Death Snowplow Accident in Upcoming Memoir My Next BreathJeremy Renner, known for his role in the Avengers franchise, suffered a life-threatening accident in January 2023 while operating a snowcat to help his
Hallo! Vielleicht ist es aufgefallen. Meine Bücher sind aus dem Verkauf genommen worden. Von mir. Grund ist, dass es kürzlich ein Treffen zwischen dem Verlag Ungeteiltes Herz und mir als Autoren gab. Ergebnis reiflicher Überlegung ist ein gemeinsamer Verlagsvertrag zwischen Verlag und mir.
#OliverLippertOffiziell
#OliverLippert
#schreiben
#poesie
#gedichte
#kurzgeschichten
#Verlag
#signing
#autor
#melancholie
#depression
#ptbs
#trauma
#vonderseeleschreiben
Gesucht wird ein #Psycholog*in oder
#Psychotherapeut*in im Bereich #Autismus
#Trauma #SozialeÄngste #Hochbegabung der/die Online-Termine an Selbstzahler innerhalb von 6 Monaten vergibt.
Alternativ auch Tipps für Präsenztermine in #OWL gerne gesehen.
Hohe Anforderungen - ich weiß - versuchen kann man es trotzdem..
#STOPTHEGENOCIDE #genocide #palestine #children #childhood #trauma #pain #hardship #suffering #stopisrael #israel #netanyahu
A #Palestinian girl from #Gaza - her eyes have seen more violence, brutality, and destruction in the past 563 days than we, adults from the west, could ever imagine.
On launch day for THE BLUE DOOR, author Janice Deal talks with Deborah Kalb. Excerpt:
Q: How would you describe the dynamic between Flo and Teddy?
A: There is love there. And tremendous loyalty. These are two individuals for whom life has not turned out exactly how either of them might have expected; consequently, that love and loyalty are expressed in some unconventional, even devastating, ways.
https://deborahkalbbooks.blogspot.com/2025/04/q-with-janice-deal.html
Sinéad O'Connor tribute stream tonight. For explanation: My dad escaped a #Catholic reform school in the mid-1940s, which led to his #military career, subsequent #PTSD + intergenerational #trauma in my family, which in turn led to my being raised in rough economic circumstances by a single mom. I'll keep the stream light, but I wanted to make a small statement to explain my motivation behind doing the stream. Lots of love. 
https://twitch.tv/maerchen1313
