i watched the season finale of a certain show. a central plot point was a character’s oedipally tragic discovery of the truth of their parentage. I think the cultural popularity of the trope of the dangerous family secret is reflected in the ambivalence #adoptees face, & feel, in searching. +

#adoptees who out themselves as transphobes will always and ever catch the block

The family reunion [for my adoptive family] is this weekend. The last time I attended a reunion was probably in 2007. I got married in 2008. I never had a spouse or boyfriend or friend to attend with me. Cousins within my age bracket rarely ever attended & if they did, they either hid away reading a book or were very much better than I at small talk, connecting with distant relatives they probably won't see again till next year. My grandmother was alive & I attended most of the reunions with her. I wanted to. Reunions were typically held at a state park where I could go on brief walks, hikes, play with a camera without making others [or me] feel weird. Late last year, I learned I have biological half-siblings... I'm not going to the a-family reunion this year, though it's been years... it somehow seems so wrong that I would be attending yet another family reunion without my siblings.

it’s easy to be committed to restoring the identity rights of #adoptees. all you have to worry about are a bunch of really bad arguments for the other side, plus a mountain of hegemonic public opinion shaped by 100 years of pro-adoption propaganda

some of you need to think a whole lot harder about the differences between privacy, secrecy, and anonymity. no one has a privacy right to keep my own identity a secret from me. My identity belongs to me. people seem to care a whole lot about personal autonomy EXCEPT when #adoptees demand theirs.

Hey it’s been a while since i mentioned the #adoptees of bluesky feed. if you want to be able to post to the feed but aren’t sure if you can, let me know and i’ll add you!

RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/feed/aaadnim25wkmc

Happy #TartanDay ! I have known I'm part of the Scots-Irish Burns sept of the Campbell clan for just over a year, after 40 years of secrecy. #Adoptees have a right to know their families and their histories. Make it legal for us to know who we are! #AdoptionIsTrauma #AdopteeRights

@corsent thanks for the warning. It's always triggering to hear truth that's close to mine, but I'm just SO glad people are finally listening! That helps. Most of my 40 years, #Adoptees have been silenced and disbelieved. It's a good change to hear hard truths being talked about.