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Stanley Bing was a master of business humor, a narrower-than-normal niche but one he filled with wit, acid and panache. And every so often, you can turn a page and, hidden amongst the flinty, wry observations, is a profound truth that hits you like a ton of bricks.

Stanley Bing • biz words — Power Talk for Fun and Profit • 1989

I build flexible IT systems that don't require maintenance.

My friend told me that he does work that satisfies user requirements but purposefully doesn't build perfect systems; so that he is called back.

I'm non judgemental outside of racism; so I don't think anything of our different approaches.

I finished the book The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen.

While I liked the idea, the book was very heavy on anecdote, and I wanted more discussion about the implications of decentering romance and committing to friendship -- and perhaps more research.

Instead of positing that friend partnership was an option, it seemed, instead, to show, perhaps without meaning to, the ways that society isn't yet ready for types of partnership outside of romantic coupling. If other people aren't judging, the law gets in the way, or one friend-partner may suddenly decide to center romance with someone else.

And while even if you find someone who holds the value of finding partnerships and close found family members, it's even rarer to find people who you harmonize with.

Since we've been inundated with the "romance/marriage at the center" story from birth (looking at you, Disney, etc.), it's really hard to resist the notion and follow another path.

How to make friends with ponies in 3 easy steps:

  1. Put out the hay in multiple piles so the ponies have choices.

  2. Sit next to a hay pile like you’re having a picnic.

  3. When the ponies come up to share your picnic spot, resist the monkey-instinct to pat them. Sharing a hay pile may not seem like you’re doing much, but you came here for 3 easy steps, didn’t you?

Actually, the ponies find it pretty meaningful to peacefully share a good snack spot. That doesn’t stop Abner from rudely sticking his face in Abigail’s face just to see if she still likes him enough to tolerate his more annoying behaviors sometimes. Just like sometimes, I don’t manage to resist the urge to pat. And I see in their expressions that they would often prefer if I sat there quietly and kept my hands to myself.

The Peace Beasts
Declare your imagination and inspiration!
The Universe conspires to make your heart-felt dreams and wishes come true. There seems to be a lot of bad happening in the world - no surprise - we accept that with no question. Why? Why do we often readily accept the bad but question the good? Choose a different message. For yourself. For others. Declare yourself a Purveyor of Peace! A Sower of Smiles! Become an active creator of the joyful world you wish to live in.

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