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#transmasc

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Shiri Bailem

As someone taking the opposite path from the below image:

I navigated it most of my life by constantly and obsessively managing my threat presence. It felt like a constant battle with the toxicity of other men. I had my guard up not because there was some threat of women assaulting me, but because watching their guard go up around me felt like being stabbed in the gut, like a lifeline getting cut off.

It took trauma and ego death for me to really start building an actual community for myself. I had bits and pieces I had gathered carefully and with great effort, but all that toxicity kept me from knowing what to do with it.

Now, even later, transition has been a massive weight lifted. (For those in the closet or eggs cracking: people clocking you doesn't make much difference here, if they put up that anti-creep guard around you they're a bitch anyways)

I feel like I can breathe. Connection is so much more casually there. I can see it in people's eyes, I can be in a crowd of strangers and I feel drastically less alone.

Unfortunately, those years of malnourished pain don't just disappear. I still have all of those threat management patterns, I feel like I'm scarred and sometimes even bleeding from that. There's a caution in me, afraid that people will misinterpret, that this wonderful person I want to make friends with will abruptly shut down on me and then disappear from my life if I relax too much, if I'm too open... I still feel like I'm emotionally walking on tip toes...

A Tumblr post by user "demilypyro" featuring a series of text posts from "skaldish" discussing the culture shock of transitioning and male socialization. Text: skaldish: Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances. skaldish: I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me. There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me. It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization—unless, of course, it’s in very specific environments. And the fact I don’t ambiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling. You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this? It is 4:30am and I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn't even know I had. Anyway, I'm going to figure out how to navigate this. Don't know how yet, but I'm gonna. azaloset: If you figure it out, can you share your insights? This is a fundamental as to why I'm in the closet skaldish: Absolutely, because it’s an extremely sticky issue. Frankly, this is something I would’ve
#lgbt#lgbtqia#trans
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jan :NS: :gay: :cat2:
#introduction

hi. i'm the maintainer of 2ezelf.net

if you know me from previous instances, no you don't

you can call me jan or alexander, doesnt matter which

he/him (or your language's equivalent), located in netherlands 🇳🇱 met een migratieachtergrond

i do amateur webmastery with static sites, and mostly focus on digital artwork (both 2d and 3d) but i am not a professional

i collect plushies and hardware, which i have plenty, old and new :3 my fave is a steam deck which i use to play games on

huge nintendo fan but played plenty of non-ninty IPs as well

i'm queer, an otherkin+furry and a disabled guy :D follow me if we have things in common and if you wanna stay up to date with my hyperfixations

also treat this as another post to boost to improve federation or to ask me anything

#nintendo #videoGames #digitalArt #furry #otherkin #indieWeb #actuallyAutistic #cptsd #madPride #vocaloid #plush #queer #transmasc #gay #objectum #disabled #pokemon
2ezelf.net2EZELFPosting my artwork and cultivating a small garden.
#pokemon
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NaraMoore ⛩️👻八尺様👻⛩️ at Fedi

For Love of a Konbini Idol, I Searched for the Kudan
Chapter 54 Released
Tree Dreams (木の夢)

By Nara Moore (Trans Author - Trans characters)
Art Mai-sensei

The sky sang of azure depths and glittering stars, the trees intoned mantras to the sun and the Buddha, and the earth crooned a lullaby, saying, “It’s winter, time to sleep.”

Dreams of love, loss, and terror. 愛情と損と恐怖の夢

Join Ume & her family as their relationships develop. In a creepy world where “love” never dies
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At: pixiv.net/novel/series/11417104
archiveofourown.org/works/5277

Artist: bsky.app/profile/maisart.bsky.

Tags: #KonbiniIdol #LGBTQ #LightNovel #ParanormalRomance #QueerFiction #Romance #Sapphic #SapphicRomance #Yuri #Queer #TDOV #TransgenderDayofVisibility #TransFem #TransMasc #NMRelease

For Love of a Konbini Idol I Searched for the Kudan Chapter 54 Released Tree Dreams (木の夢) By Nara Moore Art Mai-sensei Image: Image: Sister Sakura Kodama Utaushō (歌う閶) & Kagurashō (神楽閶) by Mai-sensei Left panel: Utaushō (歌う閶) A weary woman with a tired face and drooping sakura flowers in her hair is singing. She’s wearing a drab pink and rose kimono with a large sakura flower pattern. Right panel: Kagurashō (神楽閶) A joyous woman with sakura flowers in her hair is playing a kagurabue flute. She’s wearing a flowing pink and rose kimono with a sakura flower pattern. Quote: The sky sang of azure depths and glittering stars, the trees intoned mantras to the sun and the Buddha, and the earth crooned a lullaby, saying, “It’s winter, time to sleep.” Dreams of love, loss, and terror. 愛情と損と恐怖の夢
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NaraMoore ⛩️👻八尺様👻⛩️ at Fedi

#WritersCoffeeClub March 31. Happy International Transgender Day of Visibility! What trans author has inspired you the most?

With unwarranted ego, myself. A hard working, under appreciated trans author. Trans, #transmasc, #transfem, #lesbian #bisexual, #asexual, #otherkin, etc. characters.

New chapter each week.

Join Ume & her family as their relationships develop. In a creepy world where “love” never dies.

pixiv.net/novel/series/11417104
archiveofourown.org/works/5277

Three book covers. Two women chased by a ghost Two women chased by a ghost coming out of an ambulance A group looking at a piece of paper, a mountain that looks like a moth in the background.
#Trans#TransgenderDayofVisibility#sapphic
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